‘As I speak, I feel like my whole world and life
has crumbled before me! I know l must be in a
nightmare and when l wake up, it will just be a
dream. This cannot happen in real life to me.
Why? Where did I go wrong? How did I fail as a
mother and a wife? My husband in bed with my
daughter.
My name is Lovett; everyone who knows me
calls me mummy Joy. Joy is my biological child;
I had her pregnancy when I was only 18 years
old, then I just left secondary school and I
thought the world was at my feet. Joy’s dad was
everything a young girl of my age would want,
so it was a crazy affair l had with him. Reason
was thrown to the wind and we did everything
we ought not to have done at that age. So, it
was not a surprise to my family when l came
home pregnant, my parents are from a strong
Catholic bar ground, so abortion was out of it. I
was made to face reality and I kept the
pregnancy.
I had Joy nine months later, then l was already
nineteen years old, but l still did not know a
thing about nursing a baby. My mother took
over Joy and I went back to school. I graduated
when my mates did and got a job in a Bank,
while working there I met Wale and before I
knew what was happening we headed for the
altar. It has being eight years since I got married
to this wonderful man or so I thought and we
have two beautiful children. Joy lives with us
now because my mother is aged and she is
writing Jamb. I travelled to England for a course
in my office and I was called back by my Boss. I
couldn’t get my husband on phone to tell him of
my journey and I still couldn’t get him when l
got to Nigeria. So l took a cab home.
I saw Wale’s car in the garage and wondered
what he was doing home at the time of the day.
I went in with my key unannounced. Joy’s room
was ajar, so l knew she was around. I went
upstairs to the room that I and Wale share and
was greeted by the worse porn movie I have ever
seen…
This is what our Stars have to say
Read on…
Two options,
forgive or…
Pat Akpabio ,
Artiste/
Counselor
The woman in
question should
really feel bad
because the
husband has
really betrayed
the trust they share, it is okay for her to be
sad and confuse. She should consider the
options and weight of every decision she has
to take, whether it is a regular hobby for the
husband to sleep around or an accident of
being carried away. Her husband was caught
defiling her sixteen year old daughter, not her
friend or neighbour. So, l can understand if
she refuses to forgive him, I can also
understand if she hates him and wished he
was dead. But she can also forgive and decide
never to have anything to do with him again or
decide to forgive him if he has truly changed
and they both can live their lives together
amending the past by going for counseling.
Above all, even if she decides to leave the
man and marriage, she won’t find peace until
she finally forgives and let go. So, the most
important thing still boils down to forgiveness.
Get out of that life
Agatha Amata, TV personality
You cannot share your husband
with your daughter, so naturally
somebody has to be dropped in
this situation. It cannot be your
daughter because she is yours
biologically and he is a ware of
that fact before he did what he
did. He has betrayed your trust
and confidence and to me
that’s the most important in any
relationship. I don’t think l want
to be moved by what my
husband does outside because
men will always be men, but he
shouldn’t bring it to my home.
He has not only betrayed my
trust, he has given me an injury which will
never heal by sleeping with my child. And for
that reason I will walk away.
Walk away!
Matse Uwase ,
Radio Personality
The marriage
ended the day you
caught your husband in bed with your
daughter. To be honest, he has not only
defiled your bed, but he has proven that he is
not a father figure to your children and that he
cannot be trusted. I will advice that the lady in
this story gathers all her children and start a
new life without the man. If she doesn’t then
she will have more issues in future that might
destroy her. She should also do one thing to
relieve her of the stress, she should forgive
him, it is only in forgiveness that she will be
healed.
