I’ve been writing about relationships for
a while now and can’t help but notice
common themes that emerge over and
over again in the questions we receive
from readers. No matter what stage of
life, or what stage in the relationship.
most of the issues women are having are
rooted in the same mistakes.
To help you break away from the pack
and get on the path toward a healthier,
happier relationship, I’ve identified the
12 most common relationship mistakes
most women make. If you can get a
handle on the things on this list, I
guarantee you’ll notice your relationship
drastically change for the better.
Here you go:
1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to
another woman.
It’s a man’s nature to look, getting on his
case shows you’re insecure, which is a
huge turn-off. If you find yourself getting
jealous whenever a woman is within his
vicinity, you need to do an honest check
in with yourself. At the root of it, there is
either trust missing from the
relationship or you need to build up
your self-esteem .
2. Not respecting his personal space.
If he’s in a bad mood or doesn’t feel like
talking, leave him alone and let it be.
Most guys don’t like to talk about their
issues the way women do. Instead, they
prefer to pull back and work things out
internally .
3. Not taking care of yourself or letting
yourself go.
It really is a shame to see how many
women think it’s okay to stop working
out and shaving their legs as soon as
they’re in a relationship. If anything,
you should feel more motivated to make
the effort once things are more settled to
keep the attraction alive and s*xual
energy buzzing.
4. Not having your own life.
Don’t be one of those girls who forgets
her friends and her interests as soon as
she has a man, it never ends well and
makes you look needy .
5. Being passive aggressive.
Men are much more straightforward
than women, if you tell him nothing’s
wrong and then pout and mope around
waiting for him to press you further,
you’ll just cause anger and resentment to
build. Be honest and straightforward
with him if you have an issue.
6. Nagging.
No guy is perfect, no man is capable of
giving you every single thing you need.
There will be times when you’re not
happy with something he’s doing. If this
happen, do not nag him over it. The best
strategy is to tell him what it is you want
(I love it when you do X) instead of
harping on what you don’t want (Why
don’t you ever do Y?)
7. Not appreciating him.
Again, stop looking at the things he isn’t
doing and look at what he is doing, and
then acknowledge and appreciate him
for it! The more you show you appreciate
him, the more he’ll try to please you.
8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy.
We all have bad days, it’s
understandable. However, it’s in your
best interest to try and be happy and
positive. No one wants to hang around
with a Negative Nancy. In general, we’re
drawn to people who are happy and
radiate a positive energy. Wake up with
a smile, express gratitude , see the good
in your life and in your relationship.
This will not only help you in your
relationships, but it will make your life
better overall.
9. Dumping your insecurities onto him.
It’s not his fault if you feel fat or your
skin is breaking out or you found a tiny
wrinkle by your mouth or if you’re
scared he’ll leave you for someone shiny
and new; these are your issues and hang
ups so don’t turn them into relationship
problems.
If he’s with you, it’s a given that he finds
you attractive. Don’t talk him out of his
attraction by highlighting all your flaws.
Chances are he won’t even notice these
things until you point them out, so why
draw attention to them? Men are
attracted to confident women so not only
will you be making him aware of your
flaws, you’ll be diminishing his overall
attraction to you.
10.Trying to change him.
When you get into a relationship, you
need to take that person for exactly who
he is, not who you want him to be. He is
who he is, take it or leave it. When it
comes to minor things, like the fact that
he wears running shoes with dress pants,
be gentle and encouraging. Don’t
criticize and make him feel stupid. Say
something that makes him feel good and
inspires him to make that change on his
own, for instance, “You look really s*xy
in that outfit but it would be even s*xier
with those loafers instead.â€
11. Not loving him in the way that makes
him feel loved.
Everyone feels love differently. Most
women feel loved when their man brings
them a bouquet of flowers while this
type of gesture would be meaningless to
a guy. Guys have their own ways of
feeling loved. It could be gifts, food,
compliments, a cup of tea, or a massage
at the end of a long day. Pay attention to
how he responds to things to determine
what makes him feel truly loved (it
should be obvious) and try to do
whatever it is as much as possible.
12. Going too fast.
When you’re dating someone, you have
to ease into the relationship. If you get
swept up in the initial infatuation stages
and spend all your time with that person,
you will probably overlook any red flags
or deal breakers because you’re rational
side will be overtaken by the emotional
stimulation of it all. Ease your way into
the relationship so you avoid losing
yourself in it. You will also avoid ending
up with someone who is completely
wrong for you.
