If you are left with a broken heart, there must be
a few reasons behind the sad experience. What
are these? Either you don't know or you do not
want to acknowledge them simply because you
don't want to face the truth. However, facing the
truth helps you trace your steps from the route
to escapism. Rather than opting for extreme
measures such as alcoholism, drug addiction or
even committing suicide, it's wiser to find the
right cause behind the heartbreak. When the
cause is known, it's easier to find the remedy as
well.
There may be various causes behind heart break.
Some of them are listed here.
Nostalgia - Well, if you can't overcome your
emotional attachment to an ex-spouse, or ex-
girlfriend/boyfriend, it's going to effect your
current relationship. It's not ethical either. You
are neither true to the ex-partner nor the current
one. Can you expect a relationship based on
shaky grounds to survive for long?
Your parents and your partner do not get along
well 'Whenever you visit your parents or vice
versa, there is at least one heated argument
between your parents and your spouse. Think of
the reasons behind the argument. Try to make
the environment harmonious.
You bruise your partner's ego 'Even if you think
that you are logical most of the time and your
mate doesn't understand you, do not bruise/her
ego. Harsh words do not cultivate any
relationship, let alone a romantic one. You can
present your side of the case when your
girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse is in a cheerful
mood. Do not impose your views. Try to listen
and understand your spouse's side of the story
as well.
Your partner cheated on you 'Why did he/she
cheat on you in the first place? Were you still
obsessed with your previous partner? Did you
bruise your partner's ego? Or did your parents or
anybody else related to you did so? If you do not
acknowledge your faults and improve yourself,
your relationship may also be doomed to failure.
Divorce 'Why were you served divorced papers?
No spouse in his/her right mind will thinking of
walking out of the life of a caring husband or a
wife. He/she might have thought of divorcing you
because life might have been unbearable.
However, if you are not to be blamed, then a
wise course of action would only suggest to
forget and forgive. Give yourself some time and
start your life all over again.
Death of the lover/spouse 'Now this is a reason
that lies beyond your control. What you can do is
, give yourself time to overcome the grief. If you
have children, you must look after yourself so
that you are able to look after them.
The reasons can be many. Though all the
reasons are not under your control, you can
make honest efforts to make your relationship
everlasting. Nobody is perfect. It's true, both for
you as well as your partner. Respecting his/her
feelings will help eradicate any problems that
might creep in your relationship.
Stop heartache - step away from the pain .
