Set I
1. Given the choice of anyone in the
world, whom would you want as a
dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In
what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do
you ever rehearse what you are going
to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfectâ€
day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself?
To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age
of 90 and retain either the mind or
body of a 30-year-old for the last 60
years of your life, which would you
want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about
how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your
partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel
most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about
the way you were raised, what would
it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your
partner your life story in as much
detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow
having gained any one quality or
ability, what would it be?
Set II
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the
truth about yourself, your life, the
future or anything else, what would
you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve
dreamed of doing for a long time?
Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest
accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a
friendship?
17. What is your most treasured
memory?
18. What is your most terrible
memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you
would die suddenly, would you
change anything about the way you
are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to
you?
21. What roles do love and affection
play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you
consider a positive characteristic of
your partner. Share a total of five
items.
23. How close and warm is your
family? Do you feel your childhood
was happier than most other people's?
24. How do you feel about your
relationship with your mother?
Set III
25. Make three true “we†statements
each. For instance, “We are both in
this room feeling ... “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I
had someone with whom I could share
... “
27. If you were going to become a
close friend with your partner, please
share what would be important for
him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like
about them; be very honest this time,
saying things that you might not say to
someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an
embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of
another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that
you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to
be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening
with no opportunity to communicate
with anyone, what would you most
regret not having told someone? Why
haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything
you own, catches fire. After saving
your loved ones and pets, you have
time to safely make a final dash to
save any one item. What would it be?
Why?
35. Of all the people in your family,
whose death would you find most
disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask
your partner’s advice on how he or
she might handle it. Also, ask your
partner to reflect back to you how you
seem to be feeling about the problem
you have chosen.
