Many believe that forming a new relationship
may help them overcome an emotional
attachment to the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. When a
relationship fails, both the partners feel lonely.
But in case, you are not responsible for the
failure, you feel the hurt even more. And what if
your partner chose to walk out of your life
because he/she simply couldn't respect fidelity?
You, of course, will like opting for a new
relationship.
However, it's wiser to opt for a new relationship
after making a few considerations. It will help
you turn it into a successful one rather than
heading for another heartbreak! Here are some
tips to help you save yourself some heartache in
a new relationship:
It's better to be sure whether you can do justice
to the relationship 'If you feel that you are still in
love with your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, it's not the
right time for you to form a new relationship.
Rather than helping you overcome your
heartache, you are only on the way to invite
more of it. Your heart is still being ruled upon by
your ex-partner. With this frame of mind, you
can't do justice to another relationship. Besides,
it's not going to be fair to your current partner.
It only makes sense to learn from the past
mistakes 'Why did your previous relationship fail?
If it was because of you, try not to repeat the
past mistakes. Otherwise, you may repeat the
same pattern again. The result: another
heartache. Break this cycle. If you do so
honestly, you may never suffer the heartache
again.
Choose your partner wisely 'If it's your ex-
boyfriend/girlfriend who is responsible for the
failure of your relationship, it only indicates that
perhaps you aren't worldly wise. You should
choose your partner more sensibly.
Give yourself time 'Do not rush into the
relationship simply because you feel that he/she
is better than your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend. Try to
find whether your opinion matches the reality or
not. Your opinion of a future partner may be
based largely upon imagination. You will need
some time to find if he/she deserves your
appreciation or not. If you do not allow yourself
the time, you are more likely to get involved with
an undeserving candidate and suffer from
heartache in the long run!
Respect your partner's space as well 'Respect
your partner's space also. You shouldn't force
your new girlfriend/boyfriend to reciprocate your
feelings. Remember that a lasting relationship
also takes a longer time to evolve.
Think of what you can give to the relationship
rather what the relationship can give you.
Partners drift apart when each thinks of his/her
own. Selfishness can never make a relationship
work. Though a little self love does not amount
to sin, if you really care for your partner, chances
are he/she will never go away from you. If you
follow this golden rule, you may not suffer from
heartache in your new relationship. Heartache in
a new relationship .
